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  • Overcoming fear is a big one and it’s something we all do and at times are afraid of facing those fears.

    Now fears can range from not being able to take the next step all the way up to phobias. Fear is natural and it is there for a reason (usually protection or self-preservation)

    Just because you are afraid of something does not make you weak. It just means you may need to take a step back and realise what you are really afraid.

    For instance you may not really be afraid of spiders, you may really be afraid of what can happen if they bite you. This may not be the case and this was just an example. The point is that the fear is very rarely what we think it is.

    It can be daunting to face and find out what lies behind that fear. Fear is what holds us back the most out of all things, it really boils down to being afraid of something or could be our past conditions that has taught to not take that step and therefore we may fear what others think.  To this some might say pffft who cares what others think, this is your life and you have the right to live it how YOU see fit. Yes that is true and I would be one to say something similar. Letting go of what others may think isn’t as simple as just not listening.

    In order to block out the negatives and people who shut you down, you first need to be able to look fear in the face and tell it where to go.

    If you don’t believe me, ask yourself; if I don’t believe in myself or believe that I can how will others be able to believe in me?

    There is a lot to facing fear as it is all dependent on what the fear is and where the fear came from. Many coaching strategies will help to remove fear.

    The biggest thing I have found to facing fear and overcoming it is to believe and to take a leap of faith.

    Things are never as bad as we paint them out in our heads. These made up scenarios are just our imagination going wild. There is nothing wrong with using your imagination, you just need to be able to separate make believe and reality and know that no matter what we can envision it is extremely rare that, the scenario will play out scene by scene in reality as it does in our heads.

    Personally I have never had any situation, good or bad turn out the way I imagined it would. You can work yourself up into a frenzy imagining everything that could go right or wrong and find when it comes down to it that nothing went the way you thought and all that horrible dreadful stuff you thought was going to happen never did, not even a little.

    Apart from believing and taking a leap of faith you also need to stop overthinking and analysing everything little detail. All this does is increases that fear and makes taking that step harder and harder. The more you think and analyse the more likely you are to turn away.

    Adding to the list is to just take that step, ever heard of fear and do it anyway?

    This is the most challenging step to take when overcoming fears (and I do not recommend you take this step if we are talking about phobia’s or if it is something that could harm you in anyway) Here is where I’ll mention that this step is only to be taken as long as it is safe to do so. Yes I am about self-growth and development but the one thing I impress and implore everyone to do is self-care.

    So with this step it may be helpful to have a support group/network to help you through the process.

    I can tell you from my personal experience when I have been afraid and jumped straight into the deep end; I came up feeling free and exhilarated. It empowered me and made be believe in myself. I always find it best to close my eyes, take a deep breath and just jump.

    What will work for you?

    What makes it easy for you to just jump and do it?

    If you are thinking I could never just jump or take that leap of faith my question to you is what have you done in the past when you didn’t want to or feel comfortable in doing something?

    Or what would your younger self do?

    Sometimes I find it useful to think back to what I would have done when I was 6; Most the time I would have done whatever it was without a care in the world as I didn’t know what there was to fear.

    Fear is something we always have and I have found the with age fear increases. We start going oh no that is not right, I can’t do that, what are they going to think? We give into this fear and deprive our 6 year olds of fun and adventure and forget to live as we are too focused on everyone else.

    At a certain age people stop thinking about what others think and they say what they want to say. They don’t care anymore. Some people view this as giving up. I think these people have decided to live and nothing is going to stand in their way.

    Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could all be this free?

    The great news is we can, we just have to learn to remove the fear, believe in ourselves, learn to let things go and to just go with it and to live the life we want by putting ourselves first.

    Start thinking like you did when you were a child and you’ll find that you’ll enjoy life a lot more and you may just find that ambition you have been looking for.