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  • Ever get overwhelmed and don’t know where to go in life?

    Now be honest (it’s ok if you have felt or are feeling overwhelmed), I know we have all had those moments. Me personally when I find myself in these situations I just want to shut down, block everything else out and listen to music.

    Is this the right way to deal with stress or feeling overwhelmed; to be honest I don’t really know. All I know is that it helps me re-focus and get clear.

    Sometimes we need to just close of and clear our minds to be able to focus on what we need to do.  Does this method solve the problems, in all honesty I don’t think it does, however it can be a vital tool for us to find the solution that works well for us.

    When we are feeling overwhelmed it can be challenging to think clearly or to think at all. In these moments you are generally all in the emotions that may arise. Now I can’t speculate what those emotions will be for you as when some are overwhelmed it is because there are too many emotions running around in your system, and that’s why I find clearing my head and just shutting down for a little while is one of the most important steps.

    Usually I am an emotional person and tend to go with my gut over logic and generally make decision based on feelings; in saying that logic always plays a major part in making decisions.

    Whether you go with your feelings or you plan a logical path you can’t make decisions when you are feeling overwhelmed.

    Yes clearing your mind and just simply relaxing to me is a very important step and in order for you to get to the stage you need feel overwhelmed and acknowledge what you are feeling. Experience that feeling and sit with it for a while. Pushing your emotions to the side and not allowing yourself to experience those feelings may eventually backfire on you or you may just end up snapping one day and not being able to move on.

    I do realise in society there is a stigma around feeling “negative emotions” but part of life is living and experiencing every emotion. Before you can get clear on what you should do, before you can truly relax you need to be in the moment and just let yourself feel.

    I know this may contradict everything you have been told and it may seem strange that I am telling you to feel when others are telling you to squash and move on.

    In a way both are correct, there is no right or wrong, just let me explain my reasoning for telling you to feel that emotion or in most cases those emotions.

    To me if you don’t know what you are feeling, then how will you know when you are not feeling it?

    How will you know what to do in the future when this feeling pops up?

    When will you know that you will need to do something different?

    You feel every emotion for a particular reason; usually the reason is there to protect you in some way. For instance feeling overwhelmed could be there to protect you from pushing yourself too hard. It could always be there as you are not living congruently with your beliefs and values and not being true to who you are

    They are many reasons why you could be feeling overwhelmed and sadly in today’s world it happens more often due to the fast pace, all the stress of providing for your family etc.

    In this fast paced world it is more important now that we conquer stress and the feeling of being overwhelmed.

    At the end of the day if you are true to yourself you will pull yourself out of any pot hole you may hit. Sometimes you do need support, and someone to help guide you through certain areas.

    It takes a real hero to be able to look at themselves knowing something is not right and to do what it takes to move forward

    So do whatever you need to do. I know there are a lot of people out there telling you what to do and what not to do which can add extra pressure on you.

    Yes I realise I’m also being one of those people at the moment, but I am also sharing my experiences of how I personally overcome stress.

    In the end you’ll do what is best for you, just don’t be afraid to do whatever that is. Shutting down may work for me but who is to say that is the correct method for you

    So what do you do to clear your mind and unwind?

    I’m not telling you to put your head in the sand and bury any potential issues that are there. I’m saying give yourself time to experience the emotion, then take the time to relax and clear your mind. Again this may not work for you and that’s cool. The reason why I say take a break is because of the world we live in we rarely take breaks and that is probably the main cause of the stress. So when you un-wind, take a break or just simply relax then that could be the very solution to your problems

    I’m not saying you are feeling overwhelmed because you are not relaxing, just that it can be a main cause.

    Relaxing is vital as you are healing your body and soul. When in a relaxed/meditative state it can help guide you to the correct path and help you feel certain of your next steps; hence why you hear stories of people having life determining decisions while meditating. It allows your subconscious mind to speak up and say out loud what needs to be done, even if it is something you have known all along.

    Depending on the reasons why you feel overwhelmed depends on the solution. That’s why clearing your mind helps not just to come to a solution but to understand what you are actually feeling and why.

    Knowing and acknowledging why you are feeling a certain way is the first step to overcoming it and moving forward.

    If you don’t know what the problem is, then you’ll never find the solution.

    This is where the squash it and move on strategy comes in play. Once you have felt and acknowledged your feelings, you can then move on. I don’t totally agree with the squash it part. To me squashing a feeling is putting it to the side and not allowing yourself to feel.

    So let’s focus on the moving on part.

    You won’t always have the solution after clearing your mind and again you may need some guidance in getting to the solution.

    Just know that the answer is already inside you, you may just have to dig a little.

    Acknowledging the emotional can be enough to move forward while still searching for the overall solution.  At least now you understand why you are feeling those things.

    Obviously I cannot speculate on how long this will take. It depends if you are in tune with your emotions and are open and willing delve deep.

    So after becoming clear on what you are feeling and why, my advice is start thinking of ways to keep moving forward.

    First it might be baby steps and not an overall solution to the impending issues. I have faith that it will eventually lead to solutions.

    Be true to whom you are, do what makes you happy and not worry about what others think or believe.

    I personally believe we are all trying to fit in and are afraid to do what we want to do as we fear we may not be liked. So my advice is do what is right for you not what the person next to you is saying to do

    The only 3 steps that I truly believe will help you moving forward are:

    3 Steps to overcome Stress

    • Feel and acknowledge what you are feeling and going through
    • Spend some time relaxing and clearing your mind, have YOU time
    • Be true to yourself – Just be who you are

    I could try to dazzle you with many steps on how to move forward but one of my main Motto’s in life is KISS (Keep It Simple Smartie)

    If you can do what works for you and have 3 simple steps then you’ll be able to implement this strategy anywhere and quickly when needed. Now sometimes this may require filing it away for later, but ensure you do address it. If you don’t address it when it pops its head up, if you keep ignoring it, it will eventually get bigger and bigger until you can’t ignore it any more. That’s why letting yourself be in the moment and experience it you are dealing with it, acknowledging it and it provides you a way to move forward.

    Don’t let others tell you what to feel or how to act. This is your life, you may as well live it to your standards

    Yes I know it can be easier said than done. I know that most of our stresses in life can be caused by external factors, and possibly could be out of our control. The secret here is to focus on what you can do and where you want to be.

    Personally I find this helps as you are focusing on the most important person. YOU!

    So on that note, I’ll leave with; you are you, no one has the right to dictate your life. Live it the way you see fit and do what is best for you!

    You are the super hero in this story and you can overcome anything